frequently asked questions
Is this workshop just for very overweight women? No. This workshop is for any woman who has avoided or not enjoyed sex because she felt too fat to be sexy or lacked confidence in the size and shape of her body.
Are you saying that fat is sexy? I’m saying that a woman’s size should not dictate whether or not she feels sexy. There is no “ideal”: a woman can feel sexy at any size.
Is this just for women already in a relationship? No. The first sexual relationship we need to cultivate and nurture is with ourselves. Some women don’t want to look at or touch certain parts of their own body because they feel they are too fat and therefore not attractive. The confidence you learn and experience on this workshop can be shared with your partner if you choose, but it is fundamentally something you will be doing for yourself.
Can you guarantee results? This workshop is for women who feel ready to have a better relationship with their sexual body. If you come with an open mind, and are willing to join in and experience a different way of perceiving and relating to your body, then you will benefit from the workshop.
Do I have to take my clothes off? Many women feel some anxiety about this, however, that anxiety has usually gone by the time we actually get to this stage of the workshop! You will be asked to bring a robe with you. In the afternoon session you will be invited to change into your robe and, if you choose, you can keep your robe on rather than be totally naked. There is no sexual touching.
How will I know if I’m ready for a workshop? Deciding to take action to change something that isn’t working for you is a very positive step and one that only you can know if you are truly ready to take. Ask yourself if you are ready for change and don’t let fear stand in your way! (Start with my free email series to give you a flavour of what Sexy at Any Size is all about.)
I’m interested but does it have to be done in a group? Group work is a very powerful way of helping us to see things from a different perspective, helping us to realise that we are not alone with our problem or issue, and an opportunity to both offer and receive support. Sex may be viewed as a very private thing but the issue we are tackling is something that is experienced by many women. The workshop group will be small (maximum 8 women) and each group member will be asked to agree to a code of respect and confidentiality.
Is this group therapy? No, this is a one-off, experiential workshop with added email support.
What are your qualifications to do this? I have combined my own life experiences and those of other women I have worked with, with training in sex and body relationships. I work on a ‘woman-to-woman’ basis rather than a ‘professional-to-client’ one. I am like a supportive big sister or a helpful aunty. In terms of qualifications: I have a degree and PhD in occupational therapy and a post-graduate diploma in physical activity and wellbeing; I have been certified by the Centre for ICASA in sexual surrogate therapy; I qualified as a workshop facilitator to deliver the intuitive eating course “Beyond Chocolate”; I have completed Reiki practitioner levels 1 and 2; I have completed training in NLP techniques; and I am a qualified ‘Soul Midwife’.